What is LOVE???

LOVE…The Quintessential feeling

…LOVE… a special Feeling of ATTACHMENT, SUPPORT, FAITH, LOYALTY, COMPASSION, FONDNESS, DEPENDANCE and so and so forth. It has different Forms in different kinds of relationships i.e. love between PARENTS-KIDS, FRIENDS-FRIENDS, SOLDIER-SOLDIER/COUNTRY, PERSON-THING (SCIENCE, FOOD...etc.), PERSON-RELATIONS, PERSON-GOD…etc.. And above all the most talked and felt about is between MAN & WOMAN.

Most of other is well understood and followed and the place where people in masses feel and confuse is the last one the love between a MAN and a Woman, however there are some exclusions like WOMAN –WOMAN or MAN-MAN, so just lets focus upon a romantic love between PERSON-PERSON.

How/Why/Where/When/Whom…etc… are the questions always hits everyone’s head weather we are in teenage or in twenties or thirties…whatever… till we don’t have that perfect sync of emotions, feelings with another person and we often than never wander to find that special.

So are these feelings important? Is it really required to be in LOVE?

The Answer is YES!!! It’s very very important to be in Love in whatsoever form it may be or else we shall forever be a case of a very sharp arrow designed beautifully but without a bow. Love motivates us, secures us, cares us, support us… we being alive on this planet like other creatures need to be loved and love somebody to get these feelings to harmonize with ourselves. But first and the most important love is to love ourselves then only we be able to see love in the world around us or else everything will go and happen momentarily.

Sometimes it’s amazing to know it was Love which made the amazing Taj Mahal, it was love which finished unconquerable Troy, it is love of Meera-Krishna which makes us believe in selflessness and devotion, it’s love of Pierre and Marie Curie which made milestone discoveries in science…there are numerous other examples which show us the power of love of different forms.

Unfortunately, instead of ingredients of love people develop those attitudes which deter them from the path of love or hurt their love. So let’s analyze shortly the different steps:

a.       Eureka: We found someone whom you feel is the right one; the first thing will be to STOP!!! And think that have you really given time to the relationship so there is an understanding between two or there are things otherwise.

Now days we are so much surrounded by Romantic novels, movies and fantasy stories that we somehow become what we really aren’t but instead a thirsty person looking for water. Falling an easy prey to Fairy tale words like ‘Love at first sight’, ‘Prince on horse’, ‘Princess waiting to be awakened’ etc… forgetting the ground realities and the essence of love. However there are exceptions, it’s just like if a Hollywood star having six fingers in one hand doesn’t means that all such people will become one, although there is no denial in trying.

b.      Are you showing what you really are or you are Pretending someone which you actually aren’t, showing the perfect person the other person trying to see. PLEASE DON’T become a sheep when you are a lion from inside or vice versa as when the truth unfolds itself someday it will be a shocking to the other and to you too.

No one is perfect in this world not even Einstein was, every relation has a bit of sweetness, sourness, bitterness, spicy and a bland essence in it just like every meal has a bit of all. Even the different varying notes in a beautiful song also are a good example.

Enjoy and accept all the tastes or notes and then we shall be with happiness, with romance.

c.       Now the most important and hard to do thing…COMMITMENT… Why/How is it so tough to commit or the other way round what is commitment? When you both are in love first understand what you want in that relationship…A short term fling or a Lifetime of Togetherness. Be Honest with each other. We have to keep putting our effort into relationship in all circumstances to make it work, to keep the magic and faith alive or else any challenge in life in any form and we can get our love scattered like pearls from string. We have to keep our string, our love, strong enough so that any situation can be solved without EGO, accepting mistakes, speaking openly about feelings and challenges and positive points learned and let our faith grows like a tree withstands all the weathers but still stands tall. Embrace the negatives and focus on positives and make ourselves become better with each experience.

A Best Friend.

d.      We should never, never ever Force our Love and/or Manipulate it as per our desire or make them more perfect. We have to understand that people in love change themselves and become better and better for their loved ones, it doesn’t happen by manipulation. Manipulation by any means will bring just Fear, insecurity, distrust in a relationship and that that relationship doesn’t go far.

e.      We shouldn’t let things Stagnate and let it be a casual or take it for granted. However it is such a thing which slowly creeps in from backdoor and is often go unnoticed till a point where the other person starts searching something else in life, somewhere else.

Our love deserves to be known every time it is special and the life of our togetherness is also special and terrific. We should let go ourselves go wild, a sudden night out of a trip, buying a gift without an occasion, pursuing a new skill or experience like dance or trekking.

Keep the flame hot and keep it interesting and wild.

Above all we need to understand a fact that LOVE is feeling which can’t be bought or sold and imprisoned unlike physical need. We can’t force or prevent love. Love has no Boundaries, no Culture. However apart from all this love is such a force which can do certainly anything and without it we are lost souls.