LOVE…The Quintessential feeling
…LOVE… a special
Feeling of ATTACHMENT, SUPPORT, FAITH, LOYALTY, COMPASSION,
FONDNESS, DEPENDANCE and so and so forth. It has different Forms
in different kinds of relationships i.e. love between PARENTS-KIDS,
FRIENDS-FRIENDS, SOLDIER-SOLDIER/COUNTRY, PERSON-THING (SCIENCE, FOOD...etc.),
PERSON-RELATIONS, PERSON-GOD…etc.. And above all the most talked and felt about
is between MAN & WOMAN.
Most of other is well understood and followed and the place
where people in masses feel and confuse is the last one the love between a MAN
and a Woman, however there are some exclusions like WOMAN –WOMAN or MAN-MAN, so
just lets focus upon a romantic love between PERSON-PERSON.
How/Why/Where/When/Whom…etc… are the questions always hits
everyone’s head weather we are in teenage or in twenties or
thirties…whatever… till we don’t have that perfect sync of emotions,
feelings with another person and we often than never wander to find that
special.
So are these feelings important? Is it really required to be
in LOVE?
The Answer is YES!!! It’s very very important to be
in Love in whatsoever form it may be or else we shall forever be a case of a
very sharp arrow designed beautifully but without a bow. Love motivates us, secures us, cares us, support us… we being alive
on this planet like other creatures need to be loved and love somebody to get
these feelings to harmonize with ourselves. But first and the most important love is to love ourselves then
only we be able to see love in the world around us or else everything will go and
happen momentarily.
Sometimes it’s amazing to know it was Love which made the
amazing Taj Mahal, it was love which finished unconquerable Troy, it is love of
Meera-Krishna which makes us believe in selflessness and devotion, it’s love of
Pierre and Marie Curie which made milestone discoveries in science…there are
numerous other examples which show us the power of love of different forms.
Unfortunately, instead of ingredients of love people develop
those attitudes which deter them from the path of love or hurt their love. So
let’s analyze shortly the different steps:
a.
Eureka: We found someone whom you feel is the
right one; the first thing will be to STOP!!! And think that have you
really given time to the relationship so there is an understanding between two
or there are things otherwise.
Now days we are so much surrounded by
Romantic novels, movies and fantasy stories that we somehow become what we
really aren’t but instead a thirsty person looking for water. Falling an easy prey to Fairy tale words like ‘Love at first
sight’, ‘Prince on horse’, ‘Princess waiting to be awakened’ etc… forgetting the ground realities and the essence
of love. However there are exceptions, it’s just like if a Hollywood star having
six fingers in one hand doesn’t means that all such people will become one,
although there is no denial in trying.
b.
Are you showing what you really are or you are Pretending someone which you actually aren’t, showing the
perfect person the other person trying to see. PLEASE DON’T become a sheep when
you are a lion from inside or vice versa as when the truth unfolds itself someday
it will be a shocking to the other and to you too.
No one is perfect in this world not even
Einstein was, every relation has a bit of sweetness,
sourness, bitterness, spicy and a bland essence in
it just like every meal has a bit of all. Even the different varying notes in a
beautiful song also are a good example.
Enjoy and accept all the tastes or notes
and then we shall be with
happiness, with romance.
c.
Now the most important and hard to do thing…COMMITMENT…
Why/How is it so tough to commit or the other way round what is commitment?
When you both are in love first understand what you want in that relationship…A short term fling or a Lifetime of Togetherness.
Be Honest with each
other. We have to keep putting our effort into relationship in all circumstances
to make it work, to keep the magic and faith alive or else any challenge in
life in any form and we can get our love scattered like pearls from string. We
have to keep our string, our love, strong enough so that any situation can be
solved without EGO, accepting mistakes, speaking openly about
feelings and challenges and positive points learned and let our faith grows
like a tree withstands all the weathers but still stands tall. Embrace the
negatives and focus on positives and make ourselves become better with each
experience.
A Best Friend.
d.
We should never, never ever Force our Love
and/or Manipulate it as per our desire or make them more perfect. We
have to understand that people in love change themselves and become better and
better for their loved ones, it doesn’t happen by manipulation. Manipulation by
any means will bring just Fear,
insecurity, distrust in a relationship and that that relationship
doesn’t go far.
e.
We shouldn’t let things Stagnate and
let it be a casual or take it for granted. However it is such a thing which
slowly creeps in from backdoor and is often go unnoticed till a point where the
other person starts searching something else in life, somewhere else.
Our love
deserves to be known every time it is special and the life of our
togetherness is also special and terrific. We should let go ourselves go wild,
a sudden night out of a trip, buying a gift without an occasion, pursuing a new
skill or experience like dance or trekking.
Keep the flame hot and keep it interesting
and wild.
Above all we need to understand a fact that LOVE is feeling
which can’t be bought or sold and imprisoned unlike physical need. We
can’t force or prevent love. Love has no Boundaries, no Culture. However
apart from all this love is such a force which can do certainly anything and
without it we are lost souls.